What should you expect from a Counsellor?

Recognising that you would like or need counselling is a very brave step.

It is critical that your first call or email is treated with sensitivity and responded to in a timely manner. Often this is the reason Clients contact private self employed Counsellors who can be responsive and are not restrictive in number of sessions offered.
Understanding how it works often alleviates some of the anxiety you may have, this article focuses on face to face counselling. There are other types such as telephone and online counselling, all the principles are the same except you will not be present in the room with the Counsellor.
The BACP definition of counselling and psychotherapy is that;
‘Counselling and psychotherapy are umbrella terms that cover a range of talking therapies. They are delivered by trained practitioners who work with people over a short or long term to help them bring about effective change or enhance their wellbeing.’
It is also very important to check that the Counsellor is qualified. Counsellors require to be fully trained and to have demonstrated supervised practice hours to be licenced to practice. They also mainain active clinical supervision. This is to keep Clients safe and Counsellors work to Ethical Codes. Always ask when you make enquiries what qualifications and experience your Counsellor has. They should also be able to demonstrate to your their insurance provider. In addition many will also provide you with their police check. If they have a website or directory listing this is also worth a look as you may be able to review some testimonials of past clients and get an understanding of what the service level is like.
Once you firm up your first appointment you will have an ‘Assessment’. This is to give you the opportunity to meet the Counsellor and to get a sense if you would like to work with them. As therapy is based on therapeutic alliance you will receive no benefit if you do not connect with your Counsellor.
At the first meeting the Counsellor will ‘Contract’ with you. This process will establish the boundaries of the relationship and set out the following;

Place and time to meet.
Confidentiality.
Modality of Counsellor (how they work, for example Integrative – Psychodynamic, Humanistic and Cognitive Behavioural Therapy).
Ethical Framework (for example BACP).
Cancellation policy. It is usual to expect to pay an amount of your session if you give less that 24 hours notice or do not turn up for agreed sessions.
Price of your session and method of payment. You should expect to pay from £25 to £60 dependant on the practice and Therapist.

You and your Counsellor will sign the contract and you should expect to receive a copy.
If you decide to proceed you then meet your Counsellor/Therapist for an hour every week at a prearranged time. Your sessions are confidential unless you disclose that you would harm yourself, someone else or make your Counsellor aware of criminal activity. The Counsellor would be expected to discuss these concerns with you before they would make onward referrals and if possible gain your agreement to disclose information with you or on your behalf.
The ‘setting’ is very important. This is the ‘Therapy Room’. It should be a confidential space free from interruptions that is neutral and comfortable. This space should feel safe. The environment is carefully created to enable you to work with your Counsellor as if he/she were a blank canvas and to not be distracted by items in the room such as family photographs that are not relevant to your session. The therapy is about you and you need a therapeutic setting.

 

 

Your Counsellor will offer you the ‘core conditions’ (Carl Rogers). Simply these are attitudes that the Counsellor displays that show acceptance of you the client, such as empathy; a deep understanding from your perspective, Congruence when the Counsellor is ‘real’ and genuine with you, and finally Unconditional Positive Regard meaning there is no judgement, you will be accepted as you are period.
All of your sessions have structure even if you don’t feel it. Your Counsellor is using his or her skills to contain you within the hour without advising you. The session and the therapy will have a beginning, middle and an end. This is helpful particularly if you have issues that are making you feel muddled. Often Clients refer to this as ‘untangling’ their thoughts. They have some space to think. Putting these thoughts in order and hearing them at the end is helpful.
The most important thing to remember is you are in control. If the pace is too fast slow it down. If you would like to change how you work tell your Counsellor. All Therapy should place the Client at the centre no matter how they work. If you feel you just need to sit and let your emotions out in a session that’s ok, just be, your Counsellor is there for you .
Counselling can expose emotions that you maybe have tucked away in self protecting behaviour. The Therapist is a skilled helper and will observe you for psychosomatic signs that you are ready to process some of your issues. Working in collaboration you and your Counsellor can share this journey together. You are not alone!
When you decide to end your therapy you will plan this. Sometimes endings can be difficult and sometimes a symbol or ritual is helpful to mark the end. The length or therapy should be long enough to process the issues you brought but short enough not to create a dependence on therapy. As such it is unique, individual, just like you.
I hope you found this very brief introduction helpful and that you will now find a Counsellor suitable for you and begin what can be the best journey of your life. Today is the day to make a change, go find the new you! Good luck!

Cloughmills Cultural and Heritage Society Health Promotion Session

What a fantastic morning spent at Cloughmills Cultural and Heritage Society engaging with the group about health promotion and stress management, followed by a brief mindfulness session. We had a great turn out with over 40 individuals in attendance!

100% of the group rated the session as very good or excellent! If you or your organisation would be interested in arranging something similar to this please do not hesitate to get in contact with us.

This is what some of the group had to say;
‘The session was very enjoyable and informative’
‘A lovely presentation- I particularly liked the Mind Full- Mindful slides’
‘I found the session very helpful’
‘Gave lots of useful information that is very relevant in this present time. The meditation was very relaxing’
‘The session was excellent with a very good presentation’
‘The presentation was excellent; content was very useful and the session was enjoyable’

 

It was also amazing to see the model village of Cloughmills created by the members of the Crotchet Club.

 

Managers Masterclass 2019

Another fantastic group of managers have completed the 6 session Managers Masterclass. It is always appreciated when we get feedback from these sessions; the general consensus of the first masterclass of 2019 was that all aspects of the course were ‘excellent’! This is what some of our managers had to say;

‘The location was easy to get to, the venue was lovely with excellent facilities’
‘The hospitality was great; I was made to feel very welcome. The lunch was just beautiful’
‘The day passed very quickly because it was so thoroughly enjoyed’
‘The booklet provided was very helpful and informative. It was an excellent resource’
‘The class was very relevant to both nursing and residential settings. It was very applicable to my role and allowed for self-reflection’
‘The spotlight speaker was excellent and very helpful in generating a discussion around current issues’
‘The small groups for workshops made me feel more at ease to discuss my views, it is nice to feel that I am not on my own and to discuss issues with other managers’
‘This has been an excellent course. I have learned lots and met some great people. Thanks Deborah!’
‘An excellent course overall, the content was relevant and group discussions were particularly beneficial. A lovely venue with lovely hospitality. I would recommend it to other managers, thank you!’

If you, or anyone you know, are interested in this masterclass please do get in touch for more information and a timetable for the next class.

 

NIPEC Extension

Pleased to be asked to extend my term with NIPEC for a further year. NIPEC as an arms length public body work continually to deliver the strategic objectives and to support the enhancement of nursing and midwifery in NI. The Senior Professional Officers work directly with Nurses and Midwives and are an asset to the organisation.

 

https://www.health-ni.gov.uk/news/extension-terms-office-non-executive-chair-and-six-non-executive-members-northern-ireland-practice?fbclid=IwAR2WZWtZH3o-s-EJJw6LWTMr3yxX-aiGs7hDU2gdzuruGTAfYOMiTWwBqcg

EXPANSION ANNOUNCEMENT

Today we packed up the office at 171 York Road, our second practice after inception at Botanic in 2014. It is another ending that brings us exciting new beginnings for 2019. Due to accelerated growth in 2018 we have acquired new accommodation at Raceview Mill in Broughshane. This year we introduced new Consultancy Associates and Counselling Associates and after a few months of secret preparations we can now share our plans while the renovations are being completed. We will be moving our existing consultancy practice to the new premises and opening our new Health and Wellbeing Hub.

‘Deborah Oktar-Campbell Consulting’ and ‘Bloom Health and Wellbeing Hub’
2 Mill Lane, Raceview Mill, Broughshane, BT424JJ

Deborah Oktar-Campbell Consulting will continue to offer healthcare consultancy and training while Bloom Health and Wellbeing Hub will be offering counselling, therapies, health promotion, community groups and classes. In addition we will be offering counselling rooms for hire to local counsellors/therapists who need flexibility without long term commitment. The rooms can be hired on a block basis or by the hour.

 

Testimonials

‘being given time to think outside of the vicious circle of thoughts was very beneficial.’
2019-06-21T10:17:30+00:00
‘being given time to think outside of the vicious circle of thoughts was very beneficial.’
‘Deborah is a very good listener and I would recommend her whole heartedly as a counsellor.’
2019-06-21T10:20:02+00:00
‘Deborah is a very good listener and I would recommend her whole heartedly as a counsellor.’
‘I would like to thank Deborah very much for her genuineness throughout our sessions. I felt heard and the rapport was effective which for me is the most important aspect of counselling.’
2019-06-21T10:21:53+00:00
‘I would like to thank Deborah very much for her genuineness throughout our sessions. I felt heard and the rapport was effective which for me is the most important aspect of counselling.’
‘By talking through my thoughts and emotions it was possible for me to become more aware of them, hence I was able to deal with them.’
2019-06-21T10:20:29+00:00
‘By talking through my thoughts and emotions it was possible for me to become more aware of them, hence I was able to deal with them.’
‘Counselling has helped change my life in the most positive way.’
2019-06-21T10:22:15+00:00
‘Counselling has helped change my life in the most positive way.’
‘I have come such a long way! I am so grateful for all of the support. Now I feel equipped for starting a new chapter in my life.’
2019-06-21T10:21:25+00:00
‘I have come such a long way! I am so grateful for all of the support. Now I feel equipped for starting a new chapter in my life.’
‘I profited from counselling in so many ways and developed new coping mechanisms as a result. It was very beneficial overall.’
2019-06-21T10:16:28+00:00
‘I profited from counselling in so many ways and developed new coping mechanisms as a result. It was very beneficial overall.’
‘I would definitely recommend Deborah to other people. She made me feel very much at ease. I felt able to open up and talk freely about my problems.’
2019-06-21T10:18:53+00:00
‘I would definitely recommend Deborah to other people. She made me feel very much at ease. I felt able to open up and talk freely about my problems.’

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A distraught little 2 year old girl from Broughshane has lost her Minnie Mouse along the Butterfly Walk / Raceview Mill earlier today. If you have found Minnie and are keeping her safe and warm, could you please let us know.
Thank you. #WeAreBroughshane 🦋
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